Saying What I Need to Say

Today, I fully expected to pick up where I left off yesterday. For me the next reasonable step was to begin examining my why’s.

Why have I put myself in this position? Why do I continue to assist others in reaching their goals and realizing their dreams at the expense of my own? Is it fear? Greed? Competition? Inadequacy?

However, instead of exploring these very important questions, I remained stuck on one, single, solitary thought…

How will I “break up” with all my freelance clients? How will I tell them, “It’s over.” How will I get them to understand that “it’s me, not them?” 

Instead of facing the Why’s, I’ve gotten all ahead of myself and have fast-forwarded to the How’s.

My amazing friend Angie Mizzell, whom I mentioned in my last post, asked my advice today on a completely unrelated topic. She asked, “How do you find the courage…?” I had all the answers as they pertained to the topic we were discussing. Ironically, as it pertains to clearing my plate of all projects that distract me from my dreams, I don’t seem to have a clue.

Since she and I ended our conversation, all I can seem to ask myself is, “How do I find the courage?”

All day, I’ve tussled with this.

This evening, around 9:30 pm, my family and I popped The Karate Kid (the remake with Jaden Smith) into the DVD player. The kids were spread out on the floor and couches with blankets, pillows and stuffed animals. I sat here, on my corner of the couch, laptop open, staring at a blank “Add New Post” screen.

As the movie began, I couldn’t help notice how this mother and son were in the midst of making life changes that would inevitably lead to Clarity. Within the first 15 minutes of the movie, this mother and son arrive in a new place…China. And as they are taking in their new surroundings–uncertainty all around–a song is playing in the background.

That song spoke to me. It brought everything I’ve been feeling today into focus, and it answered my new question of How.

How do I find the courage?

The answer is: I may never find the courage.

How do I end these relationships with my freelance clients?

By Saying What I Need to Say…whether I’m courageous or not.


Even if your hands are shaking, say what you need to say...

Even if your hands are shaking, say what you need to say…


Thank you, Angie. Thank you, kids for wanting to watch The Karate Kid. And Thank you, John Mayer.


Using this blog challenge to find Clarity, Simplicity and the Basics!

Using this blog challenge to find Clarity, Simplicity and the Basics!

10 thoughts on “Saying What I Need to Say

  1. I love this post as well! (I am making my way through the thread today since I have the time!) Recently, I was in a business relationship with a business “coach” – she is actually more like a control freak with her system and beyond her one system she doesn’t know jack and so she is really a trainer to her dated system rather than a coach – and a bully at that. I put up with her for six months until I finally had enough! I found my voice and I will tell you – that was so empowering for me! It launched me onto a new level for my business and my confidence as well as my blogging mojo! Finding your voice and just saying what you need to say – is so igniting!
    MelAnn recently posted…Mirrors – Love Hate RelationshipMy Profile

  2. It is hard to find courage to say what you need to say. I have a situation that is getting to that point and thank you for making me think.

  3. When you say what you need to DO what you need, you already HAVE the courage. I am not worrying about courage anymore. I’m just doing. I’m letting others define it as courage if they choose. I know that the ending of personal and business relationships is definitely a challenge. Let us know when do it so that we can applaud your courage. Looking forward to the results posts :-). Thanks for being transparent.
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  4. Maybe the “why’s” and the “how’s” are connected. “Why” we say what we don’t really mean is because we don’t know “how” to say what we do. I like the idea that we speak our truth anyway, regardless of how courageous we feel. It’s okay to feel scared. I’m reading the Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown and she was saying that if her motive is to be liked, then she’s in trouble. But if her motive is to be authentic, and then someone doesn’t like her, she’s okay with that. So I’m trying to remember that and live that out in my own life.
    Angie Mizzell recently posted…Saying yes when you’re not sureMy Profile

  5. It’s so hard to say what needs to be said, isn’t it? I know I stress over the right way to say things a lot of the time, wanting to be heard but not wanting to offend. It’s a tough tightrope to walk, especially if you realize that, this time, there’s no way to do what needs to be done while being nice about it. Kudos to you for reaching this step and preparing to do what’s right for you!
    Nancy Norbeck recently posted…Permission to RestMy Profile

  6. What a great message! Just say what needs to be said. Noe bells, no whistles, straight to the point. No worrying about it, trying to find the courage, and so forth to do or say something that needs to be done, instead just say it. Great post. Thank you!
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